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Dieu merci ! J'ai encore les moyens de faire des dettes !
"A National Voice For Canadian Men and Fathers"
First Report from Legal Officer West, FathersCan
A severe shortage of Family-Law Lawyers is leaving some Alberta Fathers unable to respond to Family Law applications in Northern Alberta
In the first week after the official launching of FathersCan we are being almost overwhelmed with requests from Fathers who until now had nowhere to turn. In my capacity as Legal Officer West, I personally continue to be inundated with inquiries and requests for peer support and legal referrals, and questions about Family-Law.
For the most part the need is past the immediate and the problem out west appears to be an epidemic of Family-Law applications in Northern Alberta and a reported lack of Family-Law Lawyers. This writer personally contacted the Law Society of Alberta’s Lawyer Referral Service only to learn that they have no Family-Law lawyers available north of Edmonton.
A well respected and trusted Edmonton lawyer wrote in reply to me: “I am not taking any new clients, haven't been for several months, and won't be for the foreseeable future.”
Legal-aid Alberta also reports a desperate need and is advertising for Family-Law Lawyers to 'sign up'. How can this be? Well I would most certainly imagine that the recent "construction boom" in Alberta has brought "Gold Rush Fever" to Family-Law.
As labour rates and overtime requirements boost incomes, so do they boost the rush to cash in on increased child support obligations. Perhaps it is only fair but I have to ask what will happen when the boom ends or these hard working construction fathers merely burn out?
That will be a story for another day. Today I want to give you a summary of what must be one of the worst cases I have ever seen in my time as a Fathers' and Family Activist
It begins with a young man marrying a single and unwed mother and ends in an ex-parte divorce judgement requiring him to pay child support for 2 children he did not father, conceived outside of any 'current' intimate relationship. He has also been further ordered to pay spousal support for the mother who now claims to be unable to work because she now has two illegitimate children to care for.
Here is how it 'went down'.
Man meets woman who is bearing child. A male child is born. Man loves both mom and child, so he accepts child as his own. They marry but within 8 months they realize they made a mistake and they separate. Dad wants to do right thing and signs house over to mom and starts paying child support. Mom meets new guy, gets pregnant again and starts to withhold access of the first man's son. She sells the house and moves in with new guy. One year after separation from the original husband a second child is born. Two years later, i.e. three years after she separated from her original husband, mom files for official divorce.
Dad tries for Legal-aid and is turned down. He appeals and is turned down again. Dad writes to mom’s lawyer explaining that he is looking for a lawyer. Dad starts calling every lawyer in area but none are able to take on the case.
Mom’s Lawyer proceeds without further notice and obtains default judgement ex-parte. Order says he must pay retroactive child support for both children back one full year before the second child was even born. Mom who is living with new guy gets awarded spousal support retroactive to date of separation. Dad’s income gets imputed to twice true earning ability .
Dad frustrated by ongoing lack of access and inability to get legal representation, walks away and misses appeal deadline.
The Maintenance Police come knocking. The declared arrears have been set at more than $51,000.00
Dad hears about FathersCan and we confirm with him the lack of available Family-Law Lawyers. Fortunately, and with our help, this story now takes a positive turn. As a result of the timely assistance FathersCan is able to provide, Dad is now going back to get a stay of enforcement, specified enforceable access to first child, a stay of the judgment, and new trial.
I must ask though, without the vision and efforts of our National Director, who has tirelessly pioneered the concept of a national support, advocacy, and intervention network, and who lobbies to bring fathers' advocates from across Canada together, where would this Alberta Dad be today?
What will happen in the future to the thousands of other dads being funnelled through the Family-Law system each and every day in this country? We cannot wait to find out. We have to act now.
Our support and action on behalf of oppressed and ruined Canadian Dads and Men starts now. Right now. FathersCan is happy to be here to serve the needs of all Canadian Men, Fathers, Non Custodial Parents and their children.
I am proud to be part of FathersCan.
Legal Officer West
FathersCan
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article sur l'intersectionnalité
De : Isabelle Marchand - imarchand_ma@yahoo.ca
Dans le cadre de l'Alliance de recherche IREF/Relais-femme (ARIR) et des travaux ayant trait aux discours et à l'intervention féministes dans le mouvement des femmes québécois, nous vous informons que divers textes sont mis à votre disposition sur le site de l'ARIR, www.unites.uqam.ca., dans la section Textes à consulter. À cet effet, pour celles et ceux qui s'intéressent à l'approche intersectionnelle dans une perspective d'intervention auprès des femmes, un récent article traite de l'intervention féministe intersectionnelle (IFI) auprès des femmes d'origines diverses; voir le lien suivant:
http://www.unites.uqam.ca/arir/pdf/interventionfeminineintersectionnelle_marchand_corbeil.pdf
(si ce lien est trop long, essayez le http://tinyurl.com/27tpas).
Ce texte vise à expliciter l'approche intersectionnelle et à l'imbriquer à l'intervention féministe, telle que mise au monde il y a 30 ans. Un tableau schématique illustre aussi la comparaison entre les deux approches.
Pour davantage d'informations ou soumettre vos commentaires concernant cet article, n'hésitez pas à communiquer avec :
Isabelle Marchand
Agente de recherche (IREF)
marchand.isabelle@uqam.ca
514-987-3000, poste 2371
22nd November 2007Mindell JacobsJournalistEdmonton SunDear Ms Jacobs,
Your article "Put batterers behind bars" of Wed, November 21, 2007 refers
http://www.edmontonsun.com/News/Columnists/Jacobs_Mindelle/2007/11/21/4672738.html
Over recent years various Canadian studies have proved that 87% of domestic violence and 93 % of sexual assault accusations have proven to be false. In Canada 93% of Canadian Women report no domestic violence experiences at all. This goes for 94% of men too.
Domestic Violence accounts for less than 11% of all violence and for every 6 battered women there are 5 battered men in Canada.
Statscan has reported for several years now that seven per cent of women and six per cent of men end up abused by their current or former partners. The numbers are based on data gathered over the 5 years between 1999 and 2004. Since 1999, the general rate of spousal violence has remained unchanged at seven per cent. What this represents In terms of numbers is that an estimated 653,000 women and 546,000 men encountered "some form of violence" in the home .
In 2003 Statscan reported that that more women than ever before were attacking their domestic partners. In their report of that year "Family violence in Canada: A statistical profile" they found that more women killed, hurt or threatened their partners than in previous years.
At this very moment in time men form more than 65% of the victims of overall violence in Canada. For every 1 murdered woman there are 3 butchered men. It might also interest you to know that for every single woman who ends her life by suicide, 3 men do the same.
So who are the "batterers" and who do you want to have sent to jail? Which of your neighbours would you be glad to see falsely accused and jailed?
Over the years Canadian Fathers and Mens activists, especially in Alberta, have reported a long history of repeated reporting of falsehoods and prejudice on this subject by you. You are well known for the repeating of deliberate ideology-based falsehoods which definitively target one gender group in particular.
What troubles me even more about your wildly inaccurate article is that, despite being repeatedly warned your editors have allowed you to do this yet again despite proof of your deliberate bias.
You might want to hold on tightly to your job at the Edmonton Sun Ms Jacobs because I am sure you realize that were you to ever engage in producing such inaccurate, biased and untruthful work with any other organization you would be fired on the spot.
Yours sincerely
Jeremy Swanson
FathersCan
Ottawa
ALBERTA EDITION — REPORT NEWSMAGAZINE
February 28, 2000, p. 36
More deadly than the male
Media hide the fact women are far likelier to kill their children than are men
by Walter H. Schneider and Candis Mclean
A New Jersey woman who tortured and abused her 11-year-old son, and was caught on tape bragging about it, was sentenced to 10 years in prison December 17. Tonja Chamberlain, 32, of New Egypt, forced her son, Rob, to sleep in a locked, alarmed room along with a parakeet and a potbellied pig. She beat him brutally and would not allow him to go to the bathroom. He went to school smelling of urine. A neighbour who had previously tried unsuccessfully to alert authorities finally captured the mother on tape boasting, "I lifted his feet right up off the floor," referring to the impact of her blows. At another point, she talked about the colours of the bruises she was leaving on the boy. "I was hoping for purple, but all I got was red," she said. Ocean County Assistant Prosecutor William Cunningham stated that Chamberlain dotes on her two daughters and loves animals but terrorized her only son.
Although the story was reported by the Associated Press (AP) wire service, it was disseminated only on its "state" wire service to New Jersey rather than on its national wire, thereby virtually ensuring it would not be picked up by the national media, and also rendering the story difficult, if not impossible, for the average person to access from the Internet. Critics say this is the fate of many stories carried on the wire services about the brutal, often fatal, violence committed by women, and points to a society which has difficulty accepting the fact that women are capable of brutality. Some say it also points to self-censorship by the press.
A spokeswoman for AP, Susan Clark, says the decision regarding whether stories are run nation-wide or merely state-wide is left up to AP editors, but requests for an interview with an editor were ignored. University of Alberta philosophy professor emeritus Ferrel Christensen, who specializes in social ethics, says he doubts editors have a policy in place regarding which stories will be thus consigned to obscurity. "It's just lots of individuals making biased judgments, and I have books' worth of evidence that there are many people in the media suppressing information constantly, not so much by refusing to run stories, but by telling half the truth to distort people's perception. It's got to be stopped."
Even when a news item about women's violence is picked up from the wire service and disseminated through the media,
A photo illustration by Paul Wodehouse was shown here.
It showed a woman using a skillet to beat up a prostrate man.
Woman hits man: Now that's not newsworthy.
it is often in the form of a brief, one paragraph story, and often includes excuses such as "The woman was distraught" or suffering from the disorder, Munchausen syndrome by proxy, the allegedly "extremely rare" yet surprisingly ubiquitous affliction that compels parents to intentionally harm their child to bring attention to themselves. Despite the cover-up, however, the grim truth is that women are actually many times more likely to kill their children than men.
Of 1,262 American children murdered in families in 1996, women murdered 984 and men murdered 278; biological mothers murdered 768, biological fathers murdered 30. By far the greatest perpetrators are mothers who are living with a man who is not the father of her child. Because of the way in which statistics are reported in Canada, the perpetrators of the crime are more difficult to sort out. What is known is that although violent crime generally is on the decline, violent crime against children is on the rise, with homicides against children under 18 increasing from 17.5% of all homicides in 1994 to 21 % in 1998. Of those homicides, 52% were boys. A 1986 study by Dr. Cyril Greenland of McMaster University found that in Ontario, of the natural parents involved in child abuse and neglect deaths, fathers were involved in 13 deaths, mothers in three times that number (38 deaths) and both parents in 12 deaths. Infanticide is a category of crime that can be claimed only by women, and is generally punished by a jail term of two-years-less-a-day. When men kill infants, they are tried for murder.
The public perception, however, is that most women are incapable of violence. In her book, When She was Bad: Violent Women and the Myth of Innocence, author Patricia Pearson illustrates this attitude with the American case of Marybeth Tinning, who from 1972 to 1985 killed nine of her children in Schenectady, New York, and incredibly came under suspicion only after she killed her ninth. The assumption of female innocence is encouraged by the media, as Jim Boyce documented in his 1994 master's thesis at Wilfrid Laurier University in Waterloo, Ont. Under the title of Headline Coverage of Male and Female Victims of Violence in Canadian Newspapers, 1989 to 1992, it reported that "Statistics show that men and women suffer roughly equal rates of violence. Media coverage of male victimization, however, is virtually non-existent in contrast to that of female victimization." Of headlines which directly referred to the gender of victims, Mr. Boyce found 97.2% referred to women as victims, and 2.8% referred to men, a ratio of 35 to one.
Paul Goetz, a carpenter in St. Paul, Minnesota, has followed articles on violence by women over the past three years and discovered what he believes to be a "sanitation process" even in search engines. "I was thrilled when I came across the news search at Excite because it claimed to scan the articles from over 300 newspapers," he reports. He became suspicious, however, when he found by himself a lengthy article about a woman's violent act in a newspaper Excite claimed to scan, "but the article would not appear on a search even when I used the words in the actual headline! So I wrote to Excite. Some guy wrote back and explained they use a spider to scan the articles, but they are first put into a data-base at Excite before they are made available for searchers. Obviously some of the articles were getting censored. When I started to get down to the nitty-gritty of why some articles would not show up that were at the newspapers they claimed to scan, he never wrote back."
Despite the best efforts of many levels of information disseminators, however, Senator Anne Cools believes that in the past few years there has been a "paradigm shift" in the public's perception of the violence of which women are capable, due to their increasing first-hand knowledge of the violence which is frequently part of divorce. According to Sen. Cools, "Although in the past women's violence against children was overlooked by Canadian society, people now have a clearer perception that the propensity to be violent is not something that is wholly owned by the male of the species."
Gay Domestic Violence — An escalating Problem?
If the data collected by the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs (NCAVP) is accurate, then gays comprise the sector with the fasted growing rate of domestic violence by far of all sectors of the population.
Gay DV Incidents Reported in 12 American Cities
1996* 1997** Increase Male 1,191 51% 1,746 52% 555 46.6% Female 1,161 49% 1,581 48% 420 36.2% Total 2,352 3,327 975 41.5% *Source: NCAVP, as quoted by Elaine Herscher in the San Francisco ChronicleMonday 6 October 1997
** Source: NCAVP, as quoted by Susan Holt in an article in the Washington Blade 16 October 1998.
Archbishop: New fertility law will help Fathers 4 Justice
Plans to deny fathers a say in whether a woman has fertility
treatment will strengthen groups such as Fathers 4 Justice, the
Archbishop of York said today.
Dr John Sentamu said the proposals in the Human Tissue and Embryology
Bill were divorced from morality.Archbishop: New fertility law will help Fathers 4 Justice
Hansard of the U.K. Parliament, March 2, 2006
From a debate regarding presumption of child-visitation rights by non-residential fathers:Tim Loughton [MP]: Let me finish...
In support of its claim, the NSPCC [which is fighting hand, tooth and nail to keep non-residential fathers from having child-access rights — "in the best interest of the child"] cites the fact that
29 children were killed over the past 10 years during contact visits to non-resident parents. That is an appalling figure. However, it ignores its own research, which shows that over the same period some 800 children have died at the hands of resident parents or carers [read "mothers"], and the 2000 publication "Child Maltreatment in the UK" [1], which showed that violent treatment was more likely to be meted out by female carers than male ones. [Emphasis by F4L]The briefing is alarmist, sensationalist, misleading, empirically flawed, completely irresponsible and highly reprehensible. It is not worthy of an organisation such as the NSPCC, which claims to stand up for our children. I hope that our deliberations on the amendments will be based on balanced, rational and well-informed debate, rather than the arrant nonsense that I am sure will shock many dedicated and hard-working NSPCC supporters around the country.
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References:
- NSPCC Research Findings, November 2000
Child Maltreatment in the United Kingdom: a Study of the Prevalence of Abuse and Neglect
By Pat Cawson, Corinne Wattam, Sue Brooker, Graham Kelly,
Executive Summary November 2000 (PDF File - 67kB)Most of the violent treatment (78%) had happened at home, most often by mother (49%) or father (40%).
Mothers in the USA more than twice as likely than fathers to kill their children
The website of the US Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children & Families contains information on the rate of child maltreatment deaths per 100,000 children.
The information shows that mothers are more than twice as likely than fathers are to kill their children. (Child Maltreatment 2004, Chapter 4, Fatalities, US DHHS, ACF)
Le cardinal et les femmes
En dépit des excuses du cardinal Marc Ouellet, il est diffile de croire que la hiérarchie de l'Église catholique éprouve un véritable repentir pour ses erreurs passées. L'Église catholique ne semble guère vouloir changer d'attitude à l'égard des femmes. Le cardinal Ouellet a des supérieurs - le Pape et le Vatican - qui ont la prétention de définir la "nature" féminine. C'est le cas du pape Benoît XVI, successeur de Jean-Paul II. À l'époque où il était le cardinal Joseph Ratzinger et dirigeait la Congrégation romaine pour la doctrine de la foi, il avait écrit une lettre aux évêques (31 juillet 2004) intitulée «Lettre sur la collaboration des hommes et des femmes dans le monde et dans l'Église». Dans les premiers mots de cette lettre de 37 pages, il présentait l'Église catholique comme "experte en humanité", comme s'il fallait dès le début bien asseoir l'autorité du Vatican sur le monde profane. Son ton assuré laissait supposé qu'il n'avait pas le moindre doute sur sa compétence pour définir les rapports entre les sexes. Sa lettre transpirait l'antiféminisme et avait par endroits des accents du livre «Fausse route» d'Élisabeth Badinter.
Lire: «Féminisme et Vatican: l'inconciliable», par Micheline Carrier http://sisyphe.org/article.php3?id_article=1307
Et aussi: «Est-ce de l'islamophobie de critiquer l'intégrisme islamiste?», par Micheline Carrier
http://sisyphe.org/article.php3?id_article=2798Rubrique Femmes et religion:
http://sisyphe.org/rubrique.php3?id_rubrique=5
Thursday, November 22, 2007Letter to the EditorEdmonton SunRe: Mindelle Jacobs' column re: male batterersI echo the sentiments expressed by Don Meadows in his letter to the editor regarding Mindelle Jacobs' column. I would also like Ms. Jacobs to consider this point:
Ms. Jacobs seems intent on claiming that the only way men will learn their lesson is by getting jail time for a first offence. She very well may be right about that.
However, would Ms. Jacobs be just as willing to proclaim that women making FALSE allegations of abuse should also get jail time? Perhaps when the law enforcement officials begin to enforce Section 140 of the Criminal Code of Canada - wherein a charge of mischief is laid when a false allegation is made to the police - women won't feel quite as secure about calling the police, despite the allegation being patently false.
I fully support holding men accountable for actual abuse they inflict, especially when in the intimate setting of a relationship. As Mr. Meadows states, women are guilty of abusing their partner almost as often as are men. However, women are far more likely than men to use and abuse the system that is intended to protect them - even blatantly committing criminal acts while doing so - in order to inflict tremendous emotional harm on their partners.
When is the system-including columnists such as Ms. Jacobs - going to start exposing that side of the story?
Brad CharltonOntario
Same-sex Domestic Violence: Strategies for Change
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Campagne de lutte contre les violences faites aux femmes a Paris
Journée internationale de lutte contre les violences faites aux femmes 25 novembre 2007
Campagne de lutte contre les violences faites aux femmes à Paris Du 7 au 27 novembre 2007
L’ACTION MUNICIPALE
Quels que soient les arrondissements de Paris, toutes les femmes indépendamment de leur âge, de leur origine et de leur milieu social et toutes catégories socioprofessionnelles confondues peuvent un jour ou l’autre se trouver confrontées à la violence au sein du couple, de la famille ou dans la rue.
La violence la plus fréquente est celle qui s’exerce au sein du couple les violences et menaces conjugales représentent à elles seules plus de la moitié (55%).
DES ACTIONS DECLINEES SELON PLUSIEURS AXES
Dans le cadre des politiques sociales et de sécurité misent en oeuvre avec la Préfecture de Police, la Ville de Paris a choisi d’intervenir simultanément sur plusieurs AXES :
1. développement des lieux d’hébergement, d'accueil et femmes victimes de violences
2. soutien aux associations
3. prévention des violences
4. formation, information et mise en réseau des acteursPour lire la suite de cet article :
http://www.paris.fr/portail/viewmultimediadocument?multimediadocument-id=35557
Source : Mairie de Paris - http://www.paris.fr/
Femmes et violence en Colombie : dialogue Art & Société
Table ronde
dans le cadre de l'exposition 'Faits du même sang' de Claudia Bernal
La Couverture magique Productions, en association avec Droits et Démocratie, Développement et Paix, et InterPares, ont le plaisir de vous inviter à la table ronde “Femmes et violence en Colombie: dialogue Art & Société” qui se tiendra Vendredi, le 23 novembre 2007, à 19h.
Considérée comme l’un des pays les plus violents de la planète, la Colombie est déchirée depuis plus de 50 ans par une guerre civile non déclarée entre narcotrafiquants, militaires, guérillas, et paramilitaires. Expulsées de leurs terres dont le sous-sol est hautement convoité, des milliers de personnes fuient le conflit et émigrent chaque jour vers les grandes villes, entraînant de graves problèmes sociaux: dépossession, surpopulation urbaine, désarticulation de la structure familiale, perte d’identité, et encore plus de violence et de pauvreté. Dans ce drame collectif, les femmes sont sans contredit les principales victimes.
Présentée dans le cadre de l’exposition « Faits du même sang » de l’artiste d’origine colombienne Claudia BERNAL, la table ronde innove en proposant d’approfondir le phénomène du déplacement forcé et son impact sur les femmes par le biais d’un riche dialogue entre les analyses sociopolitiques et militantes sur le sujet, et l’art comme outil de transformation sociale.
Pour ce faire, la table ronde réunit aux côtés de l’artiste Claudia BERNAL deux invite(e)s de choix:
- André SELEANU, critique d’art et journaliste indépendant (Vie des arts, Canadian Art, feu Recto-Verso, Le Devoir). Il a publié de nombreux articles sur les réalités de l’Amérique latine, dont une entrevue prémonitoire avec le leader autochtone Evo Morales avant qu’il accède à la Présidence de la Bolivie. De retour d’un récent séjour en Colombie, il a publié dans le dernier numéro de ‘Vie des arts’ un important dossier sur l’art contemporain colombien.
- María del Rosario SAAVEDRA ANDRADE, travailleuse sociale et sociologue (PHD Sorbonne). Féministe colombienne de renom, elle a travaillé pendant de nombreuses années au CINEP, l’une des ONGs de droits humains les plus importantes de Colombie. À titre de chercheure et intervenante sociale auprès des groupes de femmes sur des projets liés au développement et au processus de paix, elle a entre autres accompagné diverses initiatives avec l’Organisation féminine populaire (OFP) de Barrancabermeja dans le cadre du méga-projet du Magdalena Medio pour le développement et la paix.
QUOI : Table ronde "Femmes et violence en Colombie : dialogue Art & Société"
QUAND : Vendredi, le 23 novembre 2007, à 19h / entrée libre
OÙ : DIAGONALE / Centre des arts et des fibres du Québec, 5455 av. de Gaspé, espace 203, Montréal (QC)Merci de confirmer votre présence au courriel :
Pour connaître la puissance du propos artistique de Claudia BERNAL, l’exposition de l’installation-vidéo-performance ‘Faits du même sang’ se poursuit à Diagonale jusqu’au 1er décembre. Plusieurs performances de l’artiste sont au programme d’ici la fin du mois, dont le 30 novembre à 19h, avec la participation du groupe de musique TAMBORES DE COLOMBIA, et le 1er décembre à 19h, en compagnie de la danseuse et chorégraphe Mariko TANABE.
Le juge Alain maintenu dans ses fonctions
Novembre mois des oeufs au plat
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