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1940 - A book entitled, The New World Order by H.G. Wells, in which Wells claims: 'It is the system of nationalist individualism that has to go....We are living in the end of the sovereign states....In the great struggle to evoke a Westernized World Socialism, contemporary governments may vanish....Countless people...will hate the new world order....and will die protesting against it.'
Gynécides
Le comédien dans le film
De lourdes séquelles
Les millionnaires auront une descendance nombreuse
Single mothers will be forced to name baby's father on birth certificate - or pay £200 fine
"Notice how, again, the father is painted as the bad guy. Also, the story indicates that men have a right to demand a paternity test if they feel they have been excluded as the father. However there seems to be no right to demand a paternity test if the father thinks the woman is lying about him being the father " .
Jim Wightman
Toronto
Human and charter rights realities, revelations, and the need to be very afraidPublic Record
On May 24th, 2008, The Canadian Association of Journalists' 30th anniversary national conference and annual general meeting was held in Edmonton. Panelists discuss human rights and the ongoing controversy over the limits of free speech.Fathers and Men's Rights activists and supporters need to watch this video record very closely. Be aware that the CHRC would seek (and often does to many) to stifle your inallienable right to free speech and other freedoms and will almost definitely censure us all in the future for our opposition and our reactions to the illegality of aspects of law which are destroying us in the Canadian Court System. Your very right, and those of your representatives to protest and make statements (public and personal) related to your personal case and/or the general case of Fathers and Men's Rights in the future is at risk.It is absolutely imperative to the ongoing struggle for recording and relating the truth about the Fathers disaster that you be aware of what is happening in the larger debate on free speech outside of the immediate issues of denial of the very reights we are supposed to be guranteed. If the CHRC can do what they do to journalists and the public itself imagine what they could (and certainly will) do to you? Your very opinion, written or otherwise, of a judge and how it is phrased could well see you in serious trouble under the current system.If ever there was a case of an organization creating its own sordid work and reason for being its this one. Want to know how an organization like the CAS continues to cause its family destruction? Look at how the CHRC operates for your answer. Knowing what I know about what these people do and the inflated sense of power they seem to think they have this activist can only urge that we all adocate for the immediate disbanding of the CHRC and all the Canadian HRC in every province and an immediate enquiry into past and present CHRC activities be undertaken. The battle that Ezra Levant and Mark Steyn and MacLeans magazine are engaged in with these out of control tyrants is vital for you all to understand and support.Even that 'venemous harridan', man-hater and outspoken critic of everything to do with Fathers Rights, "Mindy" Jacobs of the Edmonton Sun features in this debate and she is clearly not supportive of the CHRC. This alone is amazing because she would (in my mind) applaud and encourage the CHRC if they censured and prosecuted you. Ignore this debate at your entire peril and remember you heard it here first.The debate is nearly 90 minutes long. Every secind is worth watchingJeremy Swanson
The Parking Lot Rules
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What life should be like
<<...".......his ex-wife has fed their three boys aged 9, 13 and 15 ½ a daily diet of anti-Dad propaganda for three years. So much so that when he last saw his youngest the child asked him if he had come to kill him. "My boys believe that I am actually going to hurt them. We were an incredibly close, soccer-mad family. Now my boys are scared of me..there's absolutely no worse feeling," >><<"When we broke up, my wife told me that I wouldn't see my kids again; she also told me that she wanted to see me in the gutter." >><<"I bent down to hug her and she said, 'You're not my daddy anymore.' I cried the whole night." >>Lost Children
In the June issue of Best Life we tell the story of a number of divorced dads who believe their ex-wives have turned their children against them. These fathers are determined to fight for justice. Neville, a 43-year-old leadership trainer in Joburg, says his ex-wife has fed their three boys � aged 9, 13 and 15 � a daily diet of anti-Dad propaganda for three years. So much so that when he last saw his youngest the child asked him if he had come to kill him. "My boys believe that I am actually going to hurt them. We were an incredibly close, soccer-mad family. Now my boys are scared of me... there's absolutely no worse feeling," said Neville. Thomas, a 44-year-old Johannesburg banker, has been divorced for seven years. He hasn't seen his 12-year-old daughter and twin sons, who are 9, since his ex-wife accused him of child molestation in 2005. The charges didn't stick, but Thomas believes they were part of his ex-wife's plan to hurt him. "When we broke up, my wife told me that I wouldn't see my kids again; she also told me that she wanted to see me in the gutter." Wayne, a 35-year-old Joburg dad, has also vowed to fight until he gets access to his five-year-old daughter, whom he has seen only once in the last two years � and that was by accident. He bumped into his daughter, who was with her aunt, while walking in the neighbourhood. "I bent down to hug her and she said, 'You're not my daddy anymore.' I cried the whole night."
Neville, Thomas and Wayne's desperation is hardly unique. About 40 percent of children living with their mothers don't see their fathers so much as once a year. An insidious brainwashing can destroy the once-close relationships of children and their divorced dads. Some psychologists call it Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). "[PAS] is a terrible act of cruelty," says clinical psychologist Richard A. Warshak, Ph.D., a leading scholar of the disorder. To him, the behaviour is reminiscent of the brainwashing by religious cults but with this difference: Cults affect a small number of people. With close to half of all marriages ending in divorce and a vast majority of them involving children, the number of children at risk for PAS, he says, runs well into the millions.
"Whatever their intentions, these parents are stealing their children's souls," Warshak contends. "They are rendering them incapable of receiving love from the people who have the most love to give them." Some of the alienating behavior is simply petty, like deriding an ex-husband's cooking skills or housekeeping so the children will think less of him; or it can be insidious, like encouraging the children to call the alienated father by his first name, diminishing his stature. Some of the alienating techniques are simple propaganda, similar to what combatants use in wartime, Warshak says. "You repeat negative messages until they are so deeply imbedded in memory, the child doesn't really know how he's come to know them." Dr Asif Suleman, the spokesperson for the South African branch of Fathers4Justice, which campaigns for the rights of fathers, believes that at least 75 percent of South African fathers going through divorce experience PAS in one form or another.
"Never give up," he advises fathers in this predicament.
What can you do if you are unlucky enough to find yourself in this position?
- Read our 30-page Fatherhood Special and read our Lost Children feature. In addition to a comprehensive report on the syndrome, we provide you with tips on how to fight back and detail some warning signs that your ex may be turning the kids against you.
- Share your story - and give advice for dads who may be in this predicament - on our Fathers' Forum.
Are you a divorced dad who is a victim of Parental Alienation Syndrome? Share your experience with Best Life readers on our Fatherhood Forum. Perhaps your story can help other dads facing this predicament.
<<.."..I did not want just to be a good dad: I wanted to be the greatest father that there had ever been. I wanted to be the John Wooden of parents. I wanted my children to be talking their whole lives about how great it was to have me for their dad".>>
The Parking Lot Rules
Hard-won lessons from the front lines of fatherhood
It is harder to get a driver's license than to become a parent.
1 The Parking Lot Rules
With a license, you at least get a pamphlet to leaf through before the big test. Not so with parenting. Fifteen years ago, when my son Thomas was born, I was thrust into a role for which I had no training, no experience, no expertise, no real knowledge on the subject, and nowhere to get it. There were plenty of books about getting pregnant, naming your zygote, what to eat during the fifth month, and the value of listening to Mozart during the third trimester. There were more depend-able guides about walking through Europe than there were about taking the right steps to be the kind of dad I wanted to be. And I did not want just to be a good dad: I wanted to be the greatest father that there had ever been. I wanted to be the John Wooden of parents. I wanted my children to be talking their whole lives about how great it was to have me for their dad.
But how do you teach a child to be kind and honest, insightful and inquisitive, athletic, curious, loving and gracious, thoughtful…? How do you give a child a huge heart, make him understand loyalty, and provide him with the courage it takes to be a good sport and a good brother and a good son? Where do you even find the book that teaches you how to teach him?
I started to come up with my own ideas and guidelines for raising Thomas. After many stops and starts, I began to write down the ideas that worked best. Ideas that did not work were plentiful, unfortunately. These included Darkroom Baths, Child Steers While Daddy Drives, and probably the worst idea ever, Downhill Tricycle Drag Races. Through this trial and error, I discovered that by loving my children, I could recover my own lost childhood. The better I was able to make their childhood, the better I started to feel about my own. This became particularly clear to me when Thomas was about to be 3 years, 2 months, and 1 week old, exactly the age I was when my father died, the day everything changed, the day I lost my way and did not even know it.
The basic premise of Parking Lot Rules is that it's impossible to show a child too much respect, but it's worth the effort to try. There is no one way to raise children. It requires flexibility and insight, and wisdom not yet gained, and the awareness of when to say just the right thing and when to say absolutely nothing. My hope is that parents will find in these rules a range of options to choose from when it comes to their most precious creations—their children—and the most gratifying experience they will ever know: parenting those children.
In a world inhabited by cars the size of small houses, the parking lot can be an incredibly dangerous place. The drivers of these SUVs are in another world: watching their own children, talking on their cell phones, or listening to the radio. The last thing they are looking for is your brood. Teach your children that they need to be right next to you whenever you are in a parking lot. There is to be no trailing behind and no racing ahead. The moment you near a parking lot, call out "Parking lot rules," and your children will know that they absolutely must be by your side. This rule can also apply to any time you perceive a danger that your children have missed: perhaps raised voices or the sound of broken glass or a stranger acting erratically. It beats yelling, "Look out for the crazy guy!"
2 The Bon Jovi Rule (No Hands to the Face)
Richie Sambora is the guitarist for Bon Jovi as well as a devoted dad to his daughter, Ava. He once said the band's ability to stay healthy on the road is made possible by one rule: No hands to the face. Rock 'n' roll stars shake so many hands and encounter so many germs while touring—greeting fans backstage, signing autographs, and attending afterparties. You will almost never see a successful rock 'n' roll superstar sticking his finger in his eye if he has an itch. Instead, he will use a sleeve, a cuff, a shirttail, a tissue, or whatever else is available. Let your children learn how to stay healthy from one of the greatest rock bands in the world.
3 The Skip the First Thing That Comes to Mind Rule
One day I was playing golf with my son Sam, who was a pretty good golfer for a 6-year-old. But on this particular outing, he missed the ball three times in a row. He must have known that I would be unhappy, and he looked up at me to get the confirmation. I was surprised by how many things I thought of to say to him, none of which were very nice. For instance, that he wasn't going to Stanford if he kept playing like that. That he wasn't going to win the 2020 Masters if he didn't start concentrating. And on and on. But instead, I finally said to him, "Must have been a tough lie, Sam. Keep trying, okay?" Relieved that I was not upset, he grabbed his three-wood and walked over to his ball. He set up his shot and hit the ball perfectly—a hundred yards down the middle of the fairway. For the rest of the day, his game was back on track. By saying nothing bad, I said that everything was good, especially between us.
4 The Good Listener Rule
If your child can tell a good story, it gives her greater confidence around her peers, especially when the attention of a room is upon her. But to help ensure that your daughter becomes a good storyteller, you must become a good listener. If you show the slightest disinterest or frustration, your daughter will instinctively know, and she will rush to the ending, thinking her time is running out. Look her right in the eyes when she is talking. Say "yes" and "uh-huh" and encourage her to provide lots of details. If a story is tumbling out all over the place, gently ask, "Who is this story about, please? What happened to them again? Where did that happen exactly? Why does it matter so much to you, my darling?" Listen well and she won't think twice before approaching you with another tale of her adventures.
5 The When You Get Upset, Whisper Rule
No matter how much you love your children, you will get upset with them. But just because your angel did something idiotic does not mean that you have to do something idiotic in return. If you really want children to hear every word that you have to say, lean over to them, put your lips close to their ears, and whisper to them. The complete privacy of the interaction and the heat of your breath in their ears will bring full and total attention to your every word. Whisper things like "Daddy is very disappointed in the way you are acting." There is no need to hiss or explode your consonants or in any way sound angry. Whispering parents inspire, yelling parents intimidate. Whispering saves your children the embarrassment of being scolded in front of their friends or family and never gives them reason to doubt you love them.
6 The Do-Over Option Rule
Recently, Sam and I agreed he could have two cookies for dessert if he promised to take a bath. He had just taken the first bite of the second cookie when he said he had no intention of bathing. With the speed of a mongoose happening upon a nest of snake eggs, I snatched that cookie out of his hand. "What did you just say, Sam?" I asked. "I was just kidding, Dad, just kidding…" he implored. "I don't think you were. Please tell me why you would say that or even think of saying something like that." The bottom was dropping out of the good time we had just been enjoying. I did not like that he had been deceptive with me, even if he was kidding, but I did not feel like ruining our evening together. So I offered him the option of starting the conversation all over again, as if we were in a scene from Groundhog Day. He leaped at the opportunity. I handed him back the cookie.7 The First Bite/Last Bite Rule
I took 7-year-old Thomas to Paris several years ago. I told him we might be eating such delicacies as escargot, foie gras, and coquille St. Jacques. He was not enthused. That is, until I came up with the first bite/last bite rule. Thomas agreed to have one real bite of any food that I put in front of him. This would be the "first bite." In exchange, he earned the right to finish anything I was eating or drinking, except alcohol, of course. This would be the "last bite." I sold him by pointing out that the many delicious last bites he would enjoy (of cookies, chocolate cake, milk shakes, and so on) would more than make up for a few unusual-tasting first bites. On the second night, Thomas and I took the Métro to the famed restaurant La Coupole. I ordered the escargot, smothered in rich oils and garlic sauce. When the dish arrived, Thomas looked horrified. I said, "Thomas…first bite/last bite," and held out a dripping mollusk. He gulped at me in protest, but knowing that he had to eat only one bite gave him all the courage he needed. He opened his mouth, popped in the delicacy, had a few fast chews, and quickly washed it down. He shook his head back and forth as if to say "That was pretty awful," but he played by the rule. It continues to have a place in our lives, not just on trips, but every day. Teach your children the Bon Jovi rule: No hands to the face.
8 The John Elway Rule
Words like terrified and panic-stricken will hold new meaning if you ever lose your child in a crowd. Unfortunately, it happens. When you'll be in a crowded place, make your child easy to spot by dressing him in an NFL jersey, which is meant to be seen from the top row of an enormous stadium in the middle of a rainstorm. If he does stray, your eyes will sweep the crowd and easily spot John Elway's Denver Broncos number 7 (a bright-orange number on a deep-blue background) walking somewhere he should not be walking. If he is ever seriously lost and you need to contact security, the first question they will ask is "What is he wearing?" It will be more efficient to describe him as a three-foot-tall version of John Elway than as "a cute little boy with brown hair and a beige T-shirt" or "I think he might have been wearing shorts and a tank top." Of course there are times when a football jersey might not be appropriate. But, just keep in mind the spirit of the John Elway rule.
9 The 90 Percent Rule
When faced with the prospect of dealing with an angry parent or telling a little white lie, a child will often choose the latter. Therefore, there needs to be a clear benefit to telling the truth, even to a 6-year-old who just flushed her turtle down the toilet. So when she tells the truth, tell her what the punishment would have been had she lied, and then reduce the punishment by 90 percent as her reward. Case in point: My then third-grader Thomas was in tears when I came home one day. Breathless and tearful, he stood there looking up at me. He managed to stammer out, "Does the t-truth still refuse the p-punishment by 90 percets?" I told him it would. Out poured the story of his accidentally hitting another boy and being reprimanded by his teacher. He finished triumphantly, "…and that's the truth, Dad." I told him that if his teacher had called to tell me all these sad details, the punishment would have been two weeks without TV or video games, and no sleepovers. His eyes widened as he realized how seriously I viewed the infraction. But because he had told me the truth, I told him the punishment was reduced by 90 percent, from two weeks to two nights. The link between truth and punishment was forged in him forever.
10 The "Yes" Not "What" Rule
When your daughter calls out to you, answer her by saying "Yes?" or "Yes, my love?" or "Yes, my darling?" Or simply answer by saying her name in a loving and respectful way. Never answer "What?" in response to your daughter calling you. It is unwelcoming and dismissive. It tells her that she has interrupted you or that you have something more important to do than speak with her. But what could be more important than communicating with your beautiful child? The question that she is asking you or the dilemma that she has brought to you to solve may seem somewhat insignificant. But to your daughter, this particular request may be a crisis that only you can solve. She chose you to solve it. By responding "Yes, my love?" not "What?" or "What is it?" when she calls out your name, you are reaffirming to her the sweet knowledge that she is one of the most important people in your world.Tom Sturges is a mentor, teacher, coach, and volunteer, and the father of two sons, now ages ten and sixteen. He is Executive Vice President and Head of Creative for Universal Music Publishing Group.
Excerpted from Parking Lot Rules & 75 Other Ideas for Raising Amazing Children, by Tom Sturges.
© 2008 by Tom Sturges. Reprinted by arrangement with Random House Publishing Group.
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