Content d'être un gars
Glad to be a guy

 Mardi, le 8 novembre 2005
Thuesday, November 8  2005

Le rapport Rondeau (Les hommes: s'ouvrir à leurs réalités et répondre à leurs besoins) a été remis au Ministère de la Santé et des services sociaux le  7 janvier 2004. Depuis cette date, le document serait toujours «à l'étude.»

Le site Masters of photography répertorie plusieurs centaines des oeuvres qui ont marqué l'histoire de la photographie. Content d'être un gars diffuse ces photographies; nous estimons que les valeurs que défend Content d'être un gars et celles qui ont marqué l'histoire de la photographie sont proches les unes des autres.

 

Le dictionnaire de la condition masculine

Marche mondiale des femmes

Les féministes ont-elles de l'humour?

Oui, mais seulement quand il s'agit de dénigrer la moitié masculine de la population

Pourquoi est-ce que les lutteurs sumo se rasent les jambes?

Pour qu'on ne pense pas qu'ils sont des féministes.

 

Beau-bonhomme power

R... Nguyen nous a demandé de publier l'image ci-contre en nous jurant qu'il ne fait pas partie de la jaquette flottante pour autant. Ça, c'est lui qui le dit.

Notre correspondant veut souligner le fait qu'au Féministan, on a dénigré tout ce qui est masculin, y compris la beauté du corps masculin.

On doit admettre que sa remarque ne manque pas de pertinence mais que les caleçons blanc, c'est un peu salissant.

 

Les féministes ont-elles de l'humour?

Oui, mais seulement quand il s'agit de dénigrer la moitié masculine de la population

In the beginning, God created the earth and rested.
Then God created Man and rested.
Then God created Woman.
Since then, neither God nor Man has rested.

Mother accused of drowning, beheading girl found competent for trial

A judge ruled yesterday that a woman accused of drowning and beheading her 6- year-old daughter is mentally competent to stand trial.

King County Superior Court Judge Ronald Kessler considered an evaluation by doctors at Western State Hospital before making his decision.

Samara Spann, 30, pleaded not guilty to the charge of first-degree murder.

According to court documents, Spann told investigators she drowned 6-year-old Kyeimah about seven months ago in a bathtub in their White Center home, decapitated the child with an ax, then dropped her remains from a bridge into a river.

Divers have focused on a river in Wahkiakum County, but haven't found the girl's remains.

Dressmaker snips penis

Bangkok - A Thai seamstress nearly severed her husband's penis with a pair of scissors after learning of his infidelity and plans to leave her, media reports said on Monday.

Siriporn Phanmalee, 31, turned herself in to Bangkok police at 03:00 on Sunday morning, while her husband Aran took a taxi to a nearby hospital for emergency reattachment surgery which proved a success, said The Nation newspaper.

Police Lieutenant Colonel Sondej Thedlongthong said Siriporn could face two years in prison and a $150 - about R991 - fine if her husband presses charges.

Siriporn told police she attacked Aran while he slept shortly after he told her he was leaving her for a new lover. - Sapa-dpa

Doctors reattach severed penis

Doctors in India have reattached a man's penis after it was cut off by his wife.

The woman had long been sick of her husband's womanising, reports Medical News Today.

The last straw was when she found out he had brought a prostitute back to their home in Uttar Pradesh.

She waited until he was fast asleep, tied his hands and feet and cut off his penis with a kitchen knife 

The penis was reattached by a team of doctors, led by Dr A Singh.

Dr Singh said it was too early to tell whether the man would ever be able to have sex again.

Woman charged with cutting husband’s penis

WAUPACA — A rural New London woman is charged with substantial battery for allegedly cutting her husband’s penis with a scissors — an injury that required 15 stitches to repair.

Theresa L. Hedtke, 42, N2631 Hutchinson Road, appeared Monday before Waupaca County Circuit Judge Raymond Huber, who released her on a $5,000 signature bond. She faces further proceedings next Tuesday.

As a condition of her bond, she is not allowed to have contact with her 38-year-old husband.

She allegedly cut him because she was trying to get him to confess to having an affair. Hedtke allegedly told police she didn’t intend to cut her husband.

The husband was taken to New London Family Medical Center, where he received treatment.

Married women take lead on TV Television

Dominant roles in series reflect societal changes

This season, women rule TV dramas.

After last year’s success of “Desperate Housewives,” that development should come as no surprise; TV executives always are eager to emulate recent success.

Although women have had prominent roles in TV since at least the 1960s, this year there is a tangible difference: married women in the driver’s seat.

Mary Tyler Moore, a successful single, headlined a self-titled sitcom in the 1970s. Dana Scully, another successful single, was Fox Mulder’s equal in every sense on “The X-Files,” a 1990s drama.

But the new trend elevates wives and relegates husbands to playing second fiddle, particularly in prime-time dramas:

•On NBC’s “Medium,” Patricia Arquette plays the title role and gets the majority of screen time.

•The disparity is more pronounced on CBS’ imitator, “Ghost Whisperer,” where Jennifer Love Hewitt’s psychic is front and center while her paramedic husband (David Conrad) appears less frequently to offer comfort and support.

•On CBS’ “Close to Home,” Indianapolis prosecutor Annabeth Chase (Jennifer Finnigan) is the focus, while her husband is seen only in rare scenes.

•On ABC’s “Commander in Chief,” where first gentleman Rod (Kyle Secor) wins more screen time than most of these other “plus one” guys, he still plays a clear second to his wife, President Mackenzie Allen (Geena Davis).

The reasons for the shift are myriad: They’re economic and demographic, they’re out of narrative necessity and they’re a result of the maturing of a medium that mirrors changes in society.

Viewers have seen married women in leading roles in the past, especially on sitcoms (“Maude” in the 1970s), but there are fewer examples in prime-time dramas. It has happened from time to time (e.g. Mary Beth Lacey on “Cagney & Lacey” in the 1980s), but usually the female leads in TV dramas are single, as on “Ally McBeal,” “Judging Amy,” “Gilmore Girls,” etc.

In her upcoming book “Redesigning Women: Television After the Network Era” (University of Illinois Press; April 2006), University of Michigan communication studies assistant professor Amanda Lotz charts the rise of female-centered dramas from 1945 to the present in nine-year increments.

Seven series fitting that description were made between 1975 and 1984 and more than double that number from the mid-1980s to the mid-’90s.

The floodgates burst open from 1995 to 2004, when more than 35 female-centered dramas were produced. Even then, many of those series starred young single women (“Buffy the Vampire Slayer,” “Felicity,” “Dark Angel” and more) and aired on smaller networks or niche cable outlets. In time, TV shows with female leads migrated to the larger networks, particularly after NBC’s success with “Providence” in 1999.

“In the realm of television history, it is still pretty new,” Lotz said. “We didn’t really (regularly) have women as leads of successful dramas until the mid-to-late ’90s. … The fact that they were single women is significant as part of the complicated history of feminism and how we understand it in popular culture.

“Wrongly, it was assumed that women had to be single to be progressive female characters. … It took the success of a number of single female characters in these types of shows before taking the next step of female characters who are also in committed and equal relationships.”

John Gray, executive producer of “Ghost Whisperer,” acknowledged the roles of men and women in TV dramas are changing.

“We’ve reversed what we saw for so many years where women were just the grace notes,” Gray said.

“Ghost Whisperer” writer/producer Emily Fox said she doesn’t think of Conrad’s character as supporting.

“I think of him as a main character, but she is our point of view,” Fox said. “It’s more recent that we’ve had dramas told from a female point of view where females are doing something other than just looking for love – where they’re cops, investigators and now ghost whisperers.”

And because the focus is on their jobs, Gray notes, their marital lives are in the background. That presents a new challenge for TV writers who aren’t accustomed to crafting secondary stories for male spouses.

Lotz pointed to “Medium,” which gives the husband more screen time because the couple have three young children. On “Close to Home,” Annabeth and Jack (Christian Kane) have a newborn.

“It almost feels like they don’t know what to do with the husband” on “Close to Home,” Lotz said. “They want (Annabeth’s) personal life; it’s an important part of her character to understand she’s a young mother, but it seems like it’s difficult to blend those aspects (with workplace stories).”

She also notes that because it’s a workplace-centered procedural drama, regardless of the gender of the lead, the show would have a 90 percent-10 percent balance of work-to-home scenes.

Garth Ancier, chairman of The WB, said television reflects American cultural shifts.

“You’re in a workforce where almost half the workers are women,” he said.

The WB’s new drama “Related” focuses on four adult sisters; only one of them is married, and her husband is a supporting character.

“The majority of women in this country are breadwinners for their families, so you’re just reflecting society,” Ancier said.

Tina Pieraccini, professor of broadcasting at the State University of New York at Oswego, agreed.

“Culturally it’s not politically correct anymore to have women put second,” she said. “You can do that with men, and nobody’s going to complain. ... Look at ‘Desperate Housewives’; all their husbands are either dying or in the background.”

Married women in leading roles also mirrors the life changes for the targeted 18-to-49 female audience, said Sharon Ross, an assistant professor in the TV department at Columbia College in Chicago.

“What happens next for all the women who grew up with shows about single women? The logical trajectory is that those women get married and have kids, and you can’t keep feeding them what you’ve been giving them,” Ross said, pointing out that even at the end of its run, the women of “Sex and the City” (more of a drama than a comedy by its conclusion) had all paired off and were no longer single.

 

Husband abuse: When it's men who need shelter from violence

My mother once said: "I always taught my daughter that she should leave any man who raised his hand to strike her. But I never realised that I would have to teach my sons that lesson and I regret it."

Unfortunately, I am the person who caused her to make this remark. I am part of a rare but growing species in Singapore — I am an abused husband.

In the three years that we were a couple, my ex-wife and I had the type of relationship that most people think only exists in soap operas. But the drama was painfully real.

We hear cases of women who are beaten by their husbands or male partners. And we rightly admire women who survive abusive husbands.

In Singapore, the Government has been working with groups like Aware. The Woman's Charter protects the rights of women in marriage and groups like Aware provide counselling and shelter for women who survive abusive relationships.

But society seems to be blind to the idea that women can be abusive and men can be the victims. I was clueless — until I became one of them.

To be fair, my ex-wife suffers from bi-polar disorder. Her mood swings were extreme. Her personality could be described as being like something from the movie Gremlins: On one hand she is the sweet, cute and adorable "mog gwai", on the other hand, she is also the vicious "gremlin".

At its best, the gremlin side of her nature would prompt her to call me at the office and be verbally abusive. I would avoid giving her the telephone numbers of places where I worked, but she would somehow find them whenever I switched off my mobile.

At its worst, her behaviour would result in public embarrassment and violence. She once walked into the men's toilet of a department store to confront me. She would not leave when asked to by the toilet attendant.

In the last major confrontation that we had, I ended up lying at the bottom of a bridge with her hands in my mouth and a fist to the side of my head.

Only one man, a Caucasian, offered to call the police. Everyone else walked past. Had I laid a finger on her, there is no doubt that every passer-by would have rushed to her aid.

Ironically, it was my father-in-law who suggested that I grab hold of her and physically scare her into behaving herself. At first, I tried to restrain her. But it dawned on me that if I left marks on her, she could paint a picture of me as the abuser.

Self-defence is hard to prove when you are 1.75m tall and weigh more than 80 kg, while your wife is 1.55 metres tall and weighs 50 kg. So the only option left to me was to allow her to inflict damage whenever she exploded in public.

It is a golden rule that men simply do not hit women — a man can walk away from a woman, but never hit her. Yet, whenever we see a woman hit a man, our assumption is that the man deserved it.

I know that my actions did not justify her violent outbursts, but people would assume I was at fault. I remember being hit several times with a bag containing a laptop at an MRT station. The station staff approached me as if they wanted to deal with me.

We tried counselling. I accompanied her to sessions at the Institute of Mental Health. By the end, I had to take out a Personal Protection Order (PPO) against her.

I told her that for three years I had lived on a street in London that was known for drug dealers and prostitutes. I had walked along that street, drunk and at dangerous hours, and never been assaulted. She was the first person to assault me. "But I'm your wife," she replied.

I've also come to resent the Woman's Charter as much as I have come to resent the notion that I, as a man, am in any way obliged to take care of a woman — even after a divorce. In the two years that I was married to her, I had to endure public embarrassment and violence — yet, I was the failure because I didn't have a regular income to take care of her.

There was a report in the press a while back about the rise in numbers of men taking out PPOs against women. To men, abused as I was, I would say: Never resort to physical violence, we can never win.

And also, never be afraid to take out a PPO. It's not a shame to do it; sometimes it's the only option available. She says she is reformed and has found peace with God. She says she has acknowledged the fact that I have no desire to settle down and have children with her. I'm relieved.

We're in the process of filing for divorce. My parents are relieved I am out of this marriage, as are my friends. I'm suddenly discovering that I have a life. I still care about her; we still speak to each other, which amazes most people.

But the fact remains, trusting her not to resort to violence is one gamble that I won't take.

 Cambridge woman convicted of incest

CAMBRIDGE, ONT.  -- A southwestern Ontario woman is heading to jail after being convicted of incest.

The 43-year-old Cambridge woman has been sentenced to 43 months behind bars.

She and her 25-year-old son posed as a married couple between 1996 and 2001.

They have two children in foster care.

A third child died in 2001.

B.C. woman arrested on drug conspiracy charges in Wash.

The wife of a B.C. man accused of drug smuggling is now behind bars south of the border -- implicated in an ecstasy and marijuana ring.

B.C. woman arrested twice on birthday, once for shoplifting, then driving stolen car

A young Vancouver woman spent a night in jail and now faces several criminal charges after she was arrested twice on her birthday. Burnaby, B.C. RCMP first arrested the 23-year-old at 6 p.m. on Tuesday after she was caught shoplifting. Given the nature of the offence, the woman was released on the condition she would appear in court at a later date, the RCMP said. But just a few hours later, another officer on duty caught the woman driving a 1989 Nissan Pathfinder, which had been reported stolen from Vancouver. She was taken into custody after the second arrest. Crime statistics for 2004 show that in Vancouver more than 1,100 vehicles were stolen for every 100,000 people who live in the city, according to Statistics Canada.

 
 
 
 
 
 


Je demande le nom du compositeur

Chnoutte

Foufoune power

Ce moment de thérapie visuelle permet d'insensibiliser les mâles aux appâts qui pourraient servir à les piéger.

Dans trois affirmations d'un agent immobilier, il y a toujours deux vérités et un vice caché.

Ensemble nous sommes innombrables